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Jeff Crippen (administrator) is the pastor of Christ Reformation Church in Tillamook, Oregon and has been a pastor since 1983. Jeff has studied the subject of domestic violence and abuse since 2009. He began this study after he and his church suffered through an incident of sexual abuse by a member of their church. Jeff and his wife Verla have been married for over 40 years. From 1971 to 1983 Jeff was a police officer. After completing graduate studies at Multnomah Biblical Seminary in Portland, Oregon he and his family were sent to their first church in the mountains of western Montana. They still return there as often as possible to hunt and fish. Verla is a medical assistant at a physician’s clinic. Their son lives in Portland, and their daughter and her husband live in British Columbia.
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Barbara Roberts (administrator) was born again in her early 20s but didn’t get to church for 13 years. During this time in the wilderness she married an unbeliever and they had a daughter. After six years she left because of her husband’s abuse, was successful in gaining child custody, and started attending church. She refrained from divorce because she thought she didn’t have biblical grounds. Four years later her husband appeared to become a Christian and they reconciled, but a year later she separated again because the abuse recurred. She started supporting other victim-survivors and eventually wrote the book Not Under Bondage and developed a website to address domestic abuse in a Christian context. She knows what it’s like to fight for your child in the family court, to endure post-separation abuse (especially during visitation handover), and to have to seek protection orders and report family violence crimes to the police. She was married again for two years in her fifties, but this marriage also ended because of abuse. She loves writing, supporting survivors, and networking. She lives in Australia and has a cute little black dog who has a lot more empathy than many people do.
More info can be found here: Angela Ruth Strong’s interview with Barbara Roberts
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Jeff S (editor) has been a Christian for as long he can remember, but always growing in faith and learning how deep the love of Christ is. As a survivor from a marriage of neglect and emotional abuse, he has a heart for those who are in or have come from abusive marriages, especially those who were let down by the church in the process. Programmer by day and single father/musician/blogger by night, his hands are always full, but full of life and joy. Using the band name “Steady On” he is currently recording a music CD entitled “Through The Darkness” which will contain songs describing his emotional journey through divorce, the pain of being let down by the church and struggling in faith, and the ultimate growth and victory in Christ to not only overcome, but to be impassioned to bring the victory to others. Many of these songs are inspired by this blog. You can hear his songs at the website for his band Steady On and you can also follow Steady On on Facebook. Jeff and his band sometimes do live online concerts via StageIt.
Megan C (contributor) chose to follow Christ after her parents were killed in a car accident in 1998. She attended Liberty University where she met and married a man who was studying to be a pastor. They had four children. For 12 years, Megan and her children were mentally, verbally, emotionally, spiritually and physically abused. The marriage ended in 2011 and Megan was able to receive full custody of her children and move on toward healing. Megan has a Masters degree from Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary. Megan now resides in North Carolina, with her husband Dr. David B. Cox, where she spends most of her time caring for her children and writing. Megan has a great big heart for the oppressed — all those who are abused all over the world.
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We can’t stop perpetrators of abuse from re-posting our stuff, but we don’t give them any oxygen for doing so, so we trash the automatic notification that says “Re-posted on blah-de-blah-wordpress.com.”
If you don’t have money to buy Barb’s book
If you are a victim of abuse and can’t afford Barbara Robert’s book Not Under Bondage: Biblical Divorce for Abuse, Adultery and Desertion, please email Barb at the address given above and explain your situation. For your own safety, make sure you use an email address that is your abuser cannot access. Barb can usually arrange for a copy to be shipped to you as a gift. Some victims can’t afford the book but are able to pay the shipping cost (using PayPal). If that applies to you, mention that in your email.
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