The Sci-Fi Series Part 3: Marilyn Munster
Marilyn Munster Syndrome - When one single member of a family turns out normal and an upstanding citizen while the rest of the family is losers. - Urban Dictionary
Marilyn is a fetching young blonde resembling Marilyn Monroe, and the only family member who is not ghoulish in appearance; by the Munsters’ aesthetic standards, she is distressingly unattractive. The family views Marilyn’s appearance as an affliction, but still treat her with kindness and love. Marilyn herself is all too aware of her “homeliness” and bemoans that she keeps scaring off potential boyfriends, having no clue that the young men are in fact frightened away by her monstrous family. – Wiki
I don’t believe I’m the only normal one in the family, but I do think normals are in the minority in X’s family. A friend of mine helped me recognize that I’m a Marilyn in X’s family. I was lamenting the fact that no matter what I do, X’s parents who I thought understood, who I thought would fight for his deliverance, would fight for his family, have vilified me! Leaving the abuser has been relabeled “abandoning the marriage.” Not feeling comfortable until I saw repentance was branded “making him jump through hoops.” I divorced a man who is only beginning to realize a portion of his tremendous earning potential. I have now cut myself off from that earning potential because I am no longer his wife. But because I received money in the divorce settlement, I have been characterized as a money-grubbing thief. My friend thinks it’s all too bizarre. She told me that I am Marilyn Munster.
I must relearn what true beauty is. I must learn what a monster is. I must learn that I am NOT a monster. Refusing to be abused doesn’t make me a monster, demanding, or a thief! Seeking help doesn’t make me a gossip. And finding help for me doesn’t mean I only listen to sycophants. I am a survivor. I am a learner. I am an encourager. If you have been the Marilyn, look in the mirror and see the truth. Recognize that God sees strength and faith in you. You haven’t given up. You haven’t forsaken Christ, even though you have known an aching despair. You have turned to Him. You are willing to obey when you don’t understand. You are Marilyn. You are beautiful.